Information for Parents
and Families
On-site program for upper school students

I. Seminars for Parent Associations and Organizations

a.Academic communities

i. “Parenting for Safety” (Parents of Middle School and Secondary School students)

ii. “Parenting for Transition”

1.Middle School (Parents of Grade 8)

2.Upper School (Parents of Seniors)

iii. “Five M’s of Parenting” (Modeling, Motivating, Mediating, Monitoring, and Mentoring)

1.Middle School (All Parents)

2.Upper School (All Parents)

iv. “Re-defining Success” (Parents of children at any level)

1.Achievement vs. Character?

2.Leveling the “playing field” without changing our children

3.Challenging our current culture

v. “The Chemical Climate” (Parents of children of all ages)

1.Current chemical (drug) trends

2.Regional differences in “drugs of choice”

3.Definitions and patterns of usage

4.Addiction vs. Dependency

II. Weekend Seminars—Offered only through direct contact with Richard Ryan. (Minimum: 13 Parents/Maximum: 33 Parents)

III. Individual consultation with Richard Ryan, MA (Fee-based services)

a.Parents who are experiencing difficulty with an adolescent who is having issues with alcohol, marijuana, or other potential dependencies (eating issues, gambling, “gaming,” internet)

b.Parents who have a family member with who has a “history” of troublesome chemical use/abuse. A “history” includes chronic use of a substance (or display of a specific behavior) and/or use of a substance (or display of a specific behavior) with considerable potential consequences. Use is considered “chronic” depending on the age of experimentation (for intoxication or other sensation resulting in a significant change in the brain), the drug or behavior of choice, and the current age of the user. For instance, an adolescent who uses marijuana (consisting of average current potency) can potentially become dependent in a matter of three to six months.

c.Parents who are seeking changes in their children’s environment.

d.Parents who are seeking intervention for their child’s behavior.

e.Parents who are seeking treatment options for their children.

IV. Intervention (There is a flat fee for interventions, plus all reasonable expenses)

a.Pre-intervention Education

i. The first step for the family includes meetings with Richard Ryan.

ii. Readings and written work will be assigned and reviewed by Richard Ryan.

iii. Treatment options will be made available and reviewed.

iv. Escort services, if needed, will be provided at an additional cost.

v. Intervention

b.Richard Ryan will stay involved with the family for the first six months of the patient’s recovery plan. (Included in the fee for the intervention.)

c.On-going consultation with Richard Ryan is available following the first six months of the patient’s treatment plan. (Fee billed at an hourly rate, or by blocks of time, at the client’s preference.)

When a family chooses to treat existent issues of chemical abuse and/or chemical dependency, it takes the first step in breaking the cycle of a (frequently) genetically-based family history. The ripple effect this has is profound in that it affects generations of future progeny, as well as ameliorating the current suffering caused by chemical dependency. While this debilitating and--finally--fatal disease is progressive in nature, it is very treatable, the more so if intervened upon in the early and middle stages.

Richard Ryan is personally committed to ensuring that each family is treated with the dignity and respect to which everyone is entitled when facing such a sensitive task as the treatment of a loved one for chemical dependency.

Intervention is an educational and interactive process that entails what is referred to as “affective insight.”  Because a hallmark of the chemically- dependent is their inability to recognize the progression of their own disease, it is essential that family and friends provide the seminal information necessary to enlighten the individuals as to the very condition that has been the cause of their sustained suffering and isolation. It is through this specific committed act of love that identified people with chemical dependency are most likely to seek the help they need to embrace recovery and begin the journey that will lead to a joyous and productive life.

Your e-mail was, once again, a welcome insight into B____’s addiction.  You understand the mind of an addict and are so capable of explaining it to us, who are on the outside looking in, desperate to make sense of it.

Your counsel has been invaluable over the years. Although we may not take your advice, it is important for us to hear.  We’ve come to realize that we can’t take the steps you recommend until we are ready to accept the consequences of those decisions.  Your comments are very black and white.  We muck it up with all the color.  We then slowly strip away one layer at a time until we end up where you started.”

– Sandy C., Darien, CT
Mother of a drug dependent
son in an e-mail to R. Ryan

Four Circles Recovery Center has worked closely with Richard and the individuals he has referred to our program.  We have enjoyed a meaningful relationship with Richard and the families he serves.  Not only are his families prepared for the full continuum of care that accompanies early recovery, they are actually enthusiastic about it. Richard has a unique way to weave stories and personal experiences into his dialogue and practice that inspires and creates a space of hope for individuals and families starting the recovery process.  Richard works closely with the treatment staff and his professionalism is second only to his warm and winning personality.  His compassion for clients and families creates lasting relationship.  He is insistent on appropriate placement and follow-up care, and is a very collaborative partner to us in the planning process.  We treasure our relationship with Richard and know that the families he serves are in the best possible hands.”

Erin Levine LCSW, LCAS
Admissions Director, Four Circles Recovery Center, Asheville, NC

You spoil us with your emails, which are a wonderful help.  Fortifying, brilliantly insightful! Where would my wife and I be without your seasoned, experienced and wise counsel?

– John C., Stamford, CT
Father of an alcohol and
drug addicted son

Creative Drug Education

Lakewood, CO  |  303-275-9426 (Home office)  |  720-985-5505 (Cell)